Have you ever heard of a deadbeat dad? Have you ever wondered if you might be one? If you think that a deadbeat dad is simply someone who doesn’t pay his child support, then you might be suprised. Being a dad is no easy task, and it is far easier to neglect your duty than to fulfill it. This episode will challenge you to avoid the stigma of being a deadbeat. Do you have the courage to listen?
The words that a father speaks to his children in the privacy of home are not heard by the world, but, as in whispering-galleries, they are clearly heard at the end and by posterity. ~Jean Paul Richter
$#*! MY DAD SAYS is based on the popular Twitter feed by Justin Halpern. The show stars Emmy Award winner William Shatner as Ed Goodson; a forthright and opinionated dad who relishes expressing his unsolicited and often wildly politically incorrect observations to anyone within earshot.
In an episode of, “$#*! My Father Should Have Said”, Shatner unsuccessfully tries to tell his son Henry, played by Jonathan Sadowski, some good news about his career. Henry is a bit defensive as his dad Ed fumbles through telling his son how proud he is of Henry’s recent accomplishment.
I have learned that the three most important phrases any Dad can say to his son, (children and wife), are:
I love you
I am proud of you
Your really good at…….
It wasn’t until the second-to-last day of my father’s life that he said those words to me. My dad held my hand and told me how proud he was of my 4 children and the life I had created for myself and my family. That night as I drove home from the hospital all I could think of was my Dad and how hard he worked to give me a good life. He sacrificed so much and I never really thanked him or showed my appreciation to him. He was a good man and a good Dad, and I never realized it till that day. He passed away that night, all alone. I truly do miss him.
And I must admit that I was never really any good at using those phrases with my children when they were growing up. I regret to this very day that I stumbled through life, just as Ed did, not using those phrases with my children. As they grew up going through all those obstacles of their youth, I missed opportunities to create a great relationship with them.
How different would Henry have felt if Ed had just said, “I am proud of you Henry; you received your first check today. That’s awesome! You are really going to be a great writer. I love you for that. Keep it up.”
So often fathers forget that their sons need and want to look up to their fathers. Sons want the recognition of accomplishment from Dad. Those simple three phrases used often will create a bond between son and dad that will last beyond the end of time.
It is never too late to begin to tell your son; “I’m proud of you that you are working really hard at……..your really good at……. and I love you for who you are, my son.”
How do you want your son, or children, to remember you? What kind of legacy of fatherhood do you want to leave behind? Remember the saying, “It’s never too late.” Truer words were never spoken. Begin today!
Peter Glon is a life coach with a passion for helping men become the Dads their kids need them to be. Find out more about Peter or contact him at his Google+ Page.
As some of you may know, if you listen to my podcast, our family is in the process of adopting a little girl from the country of Hungary. Already thousands of dollars have been spent in fees and we still have so far to go. It has truly been a journey that has tried our faith many times.
Our son Cole won a puzzle as a prize in Sunday school a few weeks ago, and decided that he wanted to use it to help us raise money for our next payment of $1500. He had heard my wife and I discussing doing something similar and decided the time for talking was over. It was time to act!
Here is How it Works
Cole’s puzzle is 100 pieces total. He is asking for donations of $5 per piece. Every time he receives $5, he will be able to put a new piece of the puzzle in place. When the puzzle is finished, we will seal it with clear puzzle sealer and hang it up as a memory of our adoption process.
Here is How You Can Help
Look, we know it is nearly Christmas time, but would you be willing to help Cole with this fundraiser? I promised him I would put it here on the blog, and see if anyone would be willing to help him out. You can donate securely by using the Paypal link below. Simply note “puzzle” in the comment section of the donation screen. A donation of any size is appreciated.
Please do not view this as donating to Cole, or to our family in particular. When you give, you are giving to help a child find a home, who does not currently have one. Please consider helping in this important endeavor. Thanks in advance!
I want my daughter to be feminine, but not a feminist. There is a difference. As a Dad I believe that I am the most important man in my daughter’s life and the one who is entrusted to guide her to become the woman she was meant to be. Raising a feminine daughter may not be popular in this culture, but it is the task I have been called to. Don’t know the difference between femininity and being a feminist? Listen to find out more.